HOW TO STOP BEING THE PERFECT VICTIM OF A HANDLING PERSON IN 6 STEPS
In any area of our life we can meet a manipulative person. In our own family, at work, friends or even, you can be our partner.
In some cases it is difficult to counteract a manipulator but if you follow a few small tips and weapons of patience you will be able to block it.
Today you will discover how to become immune to the manipulation of a person with 6 tips that you must put into practice when you find a person like that, or even more, if it already exists in your life. These tips are not intended for you now to become a manipulator, but so you know how to act with one of them and do not affect your manipulative behavior.
Before revealing those tips, you should know what manipulatives are like. A manipulator is a capricious, intolerant, selfish person, they do not know how to accept a point of view that differs from theirs, blackmailer, cruel and willing to do everything to achieve their goals, it can even have a strong or aggressive character. They are, in short, people who know very well how to handle others to the point of annulling their will for the benefit of their own desires or whims.
Its main victims are those vulnerable people, who can not say “no” and who fear confrontation. Usually, they are directed to people they know can get them to handle their emotions to the point of making them feel guilty and, therefore, act according to their criteria as if they were human puppets.
Face that manipulative person who crosses your path and do not let yourself fall into their networks. Here are 6 tips with which to deal effectively with a manipulator. Attention because these steps will serve as a counterattack and will help you overcome any person who creates his own world with trickery.
- BLOCK YOUR VICTIM ATTITUDE
Manipulators love to become victims. Whatever happens, they manage to turn things around to make you believe that you are the only one to blame. Always going victim is one of your most powerful strategies.
How can you counterattack? Well, ignoring his attitude and not accepting his victimhood. Although your power of conviction is great, do not let yourself be dragged. You can get a lock on this manipulative ploy by verbalizing what you are doing simply by “stop being the victim,” for example. A good argumentation power and not to be influenced by what you say are master letters that you can play to make this manipulator fall.
- DO NOT ACCEPT THAT YOU HAVE A “SHOW”
Another characteristic of manipulative people is that when they do not get what they want, they get angry and end up mounting a tantrum (childish way) that makes their victim feel bad and they even end up blaming something almost 100%. % does not have.
How to stop that behavior? Not paying attention to him or going behind. Do not reassure him and do not give him the reason. When it has passed you can talk more quietly with that person. Do not give in to your emotional blackmail.
- IGNORE YOUR AGGRESSIVENESS
The manipulators usually speak in a rude, somewhat aggressive or even violent way. Do not let anyone disrespect you. If you do not learn to stop their behavior, things will get worse.
Given this attitude, the best strategy you can use is ignorance. Ignore their way of talking to you, their insults or their screams. You have to reeducate the manipulator and make him see that his aggressive behavior will not work with you.
- MAKE IT SEE THAT YOU ARE NOT AN EASY TO MANIPULATE PERSON
One of the missions of a manipulative person is to play to destroy your security by belittling your abilities or your virtues, and for that you will focus mainly on your weaknesses. It will try to make you guilty if you do not obey its orders.
In this case, what you have to do is say “no” and do not feel guilty and also prove to that person that you do not have to feel guilty. You should never think that the problem is in you, so do not lower your self-esteem or turn to the behavior of the manipulator. You should never give up your rights and say what you really think.
- BE CAREFUL TO YOUR FALSE CONFIDENCE AND YOUR ATTACKS TO YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
In this case the manipulative person will enter your life with compliments to you and a high dose of sympathy until you create a bond of trust with you. From that moment in which you have already gained all your trust, you will start by insulting, shouting, reproaching, attacking in different ways, disqualifying everything you say or do and, in one way or another, you will be devaluing and doing that you lose your level of self-esteem in order to control yourself better.
The weapon that you should use in this attitude is to rely more on the facts than on the words and never let the other person make you feel inferior, whatever you say. Show yourself serene and sure of yourself so as not to fall into their game. Do not let anyone degrade you as a human being.
- THAT DOES NOT DISTRACT YOU WITH YOUR EVASION TO THE PAST
It consists of transferring the current discussion to another one of the past with certain similarity where they supposedly were victims. This way, your mistake of the past or that of other people justifies your bad behavior with you. In this case the manipulator is trying to create a screen as a distraction by going to the past.
The only way to overcome this evasion of the past is to constantly reorient the conversation to the present moment and not give in to distractions.
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